@moh_kohn This is, to a large extent, what you get if you go to a smaller, more focused instance. If you get on a server dedicated to a particular group or worldview or interest, one dedicated to safeguarding the interests and safety of the people in that particular group, you're likely to get an experience close to what you're looking for.

In other words, what you're asking for is, for the most part, already there. You just have to wander away from the larger instances to find it.